step in the right direction

wow…” XXXXX XXXXXXX July 18 at 5:17pm Report
You’re a STEP mother, why don’t you butt out for once and let Gretchen’s REAL mother have time with her daughter. For once stand in the BACK GROUND where you belong !! Shame on your husband , he knows Ellyn is their mother and you know it too. ANY respect I had for Tom is now none…. Shame on you both! XXXXXXXX’s real AuntXXXXX”…man she sounds pissed…this letter, hateful as it may be, posses some real questions?? first…how can someone be so stupid as to write this shit down…this a letter my wife recieved…the other is what is the role of a step parent…with the so many blended families today where do step parents fit in… 

Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the activity of raising a child rather than the biological relationship.[1]

In the case of humans, it is usually done by the biological parents of the child in question,[2] …this is the definition of parenting found on wikapedia…it sounds pretty cut and dry.”the activity of raising a child rather than the biological relationship”…

   my wife and i are second marrages…we each have three children apiece…a regular brady bunch that’s us…when we married 10 years ago we agreed that when in our house the 6 of them were our children…we would parent them as a team, not my kids your kids…children have a difficult time when mom and dad devorce…the last thing they need is a house divided…a place where they feel unwanted…our house was and is stable…now the problem in the step is the age of the children…kids are products of their enviroments…so the older the child, the more they are affected and adjusted to the parent figures…no matter how bad the previous  home may be it is all they knew to  be…. younger children will be more open to others…on the parent side of the equation..step children do not share the bond created by birth…they are not bound to their new loves children as they are to their own…i have always told my children that they get one mother and one father…can’t choose them they are a birth right…however they do get people in they lives that can influence their growth…that can provide parenting skills and give them guidence…help them grow…teach them to love and to laugh..hold them when they cry and wipe their face when they are hurt or sick…walk with them…help them study teach them to sew…teach them to fix it, assemble it, or tear it apart…everything a parent would do for his or her child…or step child…and through all this a bond is formed…a love of a parent to a child…and the word step is nowhere to be seen….like in the story horton hatches the egg…there is a time and a devotion that can not be swiped away…love is love, and love my kids and i love her kids …i love our kids…yup it takes a village…no room for hate…love to the kids…all of them and linney, …oh ya ain’t forgot about you