marriage?

WOW….you know just when you think you have life all figured out, life up and kicks the shit out of you…calls you a sissy baby, tells you that you don’t know shit and that you ain’t shit…and then it sends you home to mama..and as you limp away life winks at you and tips its hat and says ” see ya tomorrow kid” 

   well i just had one of those moments…you see it is sunday afternoon …the sun is shining(and for central new york that’s a feat in itself)…the wife and i are paying the bills and the NASCAR race at atlanta is winding down…ah ..damn you carl edwards…you suck…my little netbook is on facebook and my little girl is on chat….” hey baby, how’s my favorite sailor?”…hey daddy… here comes the ass kicking…you see i was watching a big wreck and paying bills…so the chat conversation was not the top prioity…so when she types back you didn’t answer my question i had to look back…Where’s the race??no not that…how are you?? no….”WHAT WOULD YOU SAY  IF COOPER ASKED ME TO MARRY HIM?”…ahhhh …holy shit my heart stopped…this was my little girl….Cooper???….i don’t know Cooper…I saw him once while my the little admiral and he were skyping….so i did what any father would do…panic…pure panic….Don’t get me wrong Cooper is a sailor too…my daughter met him at A- school in florida…she went to seattle and he went to italy……it’s funny but at the greatest times of panic my head said…WTF…your child is reaching out to you…she values your in put…holy shit i did something right…and in that thought it became clear that even though she was asking me…it should be me asking her…she has all the tools of my teaching so the problem i have just been hit with is not my problem at all….so i typed her back…(granted with a rapid heart beat)” honey i am not the one who will marry cooper so the question is What would you do?”

….. i mean was this a fact-finding mission on Cooper’s part or was the boy popping the question from half a world away?…”well ” she says” he doesn’t want you to hate him”  …ok smack smack…bring it on life….” honey how can i hate him if i don’t know him?…You see” i say” it is not my call…i have given you my years of wisdom…i hope you were listening…this is your decision…i can say that if he makes you happy and keeps you safe then i love the boy already…tell him to pop over and we’ll have a beer”so i ask her..” what did you say?” ….and she tells me” i would probably say yes if you asked in person.”  what a perfect answer…i mean come on…who’s going to put the ring on the fedex guy…ya that’s my girl…wow…love to the kids…and hug them good…teach them well….and linny …keep the faith…the ride ain’t over yet….